In reality, living with your partner is tough! It requires continuous effort and most importantly LISTENING.
When we were moving in together, we didn’t have any sit down talk or game plan. It seems too hard to know what you’ll encounter as a couple. Instead, living together is a game of trial and error. So we took every day as it came!
Expressing your honest emotions, listening, adjusting, listening some more…rinse and repeat.
It gets even more interesting when you think about the house you grew up in. It’s pretty likely that you maintain a home or have some habits that your parents did. For example, Melissa’s dad groups all the silverware in the dishwasher by silverware type. GENIUS! So now, that’s how we organize our dishwasher!
That is the type of efficiency Ryan was so on board for!
Ryan, for some off reason, started putting silverware right side up in the dishwasher and asked Melissa to adjust. She adjusted to yet another one of Ryan’s quirks (even though it still makes no sense to touch the tops of the silverware after they’re clean, but it makes him happy!)
For us, moving in together was a must! We used it as a trial period to see how compatible we were living together. It’s weird thinking back on our relationship about this, because it really did feel like an evaluation period. Although we both knew we wanted to marry each other, we had both never lived with a significant other before, so we felt like we needed this period before tying the knot.
“Can I handle the way Ryan does x?” “Oh my, when Melissa does y it drives me crazy! I don’t know if I can live with this forever.”
It sounds messed up, but it’s the honest truth.
Ultimately, we realized how much we loved living together, and even though we both have our quirks, we knew we could live with them forever!
But living together isn’t just about choabitating, it’s more than that. What about splitting money? Who pays for what? After years of venmoing back and forth, we decided to join our finances to become more efficient.
If you truly embrace the growth in this period, living together is so much fun! Yes, we do things that annoy each other, but it’s just part of life As humans, we ultimately crave a partnership.