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Hey! We’re Ryan and Melissa! Husband and wife and new parents living in Nashville, Tennessee! We're all about building a foundation. The foundation is love. Whether it's learning how to communicate together about feelings or what to do with your money, the foundation is love. We’re nowhere near perfect, but we’re committed to expressing love.


It’s the best season of the year! Autumn! 🍂🍁 A few weeks ago, when we were filming a Q&A for the channel, someone asked how our goals were doing and it made us take a step back and evaluate how we’re showing up for each other. One of our goals was to continue weekly date […]

We’re about 24 hours away from the 1 trip we really wanted to plan this year! 30A Rosemary Beach, Florida! Come along with me as I pack for the adventure! First things first, TARGET! What trip is complete without a trip to Target for the necessities (and let’s be real — miscellaneous things that we […]

How does a puppy affect your relationship? Life definitely changes! Our puppy has tested our relationship and really emphasized the importance of communicating to build a healthy relationship. Everything from who’s taking her out in the middle of the night to what kind of puppy do we want to raise. Things we tried to plan […]

Over the last few years, we’ve started to set goals together as a couple. We have a list of questions we always ask and love to record each other answering them. The first year is interesting, but the magic comes after year two! It’s so fun to watch the video from the prior years and […]

Does it feel any different being married? I always wondered this before being married. The answer for us from a relationship perspective is no. We do feel more secure in our relationship though, which is something tough to even describe. Another feeling I had before the wedding was “this is such a waste of money.” […]

Before we moved to Tennessee from Arizona, we were a bit worried if we’d like it. Now that we’re a year in, do we regreat moving to Tennessee?! ABSOLUTELY NOT! It was one of the best decisions we’ve made in our lives so far and we wouldn’t change it. Before we moved, we obviously googled […]

Don’t get married – it’s too hard!! The most fascinating thing about relationships – each one is different! Each one requires different inputs and outputs because guess what…you are unique. We believe communication is a common thread that would sew healthy relationships for all. Given each relationship is different, this is our experience as a […]

In reality, living with your partner is tough! It requires continuous effort and most importantly LISTENING. When we were moving in together, we didn’t have any sit down talk or game plan. It seems too hard to know what you’ll encounter as a couple. Instead, living together is a game of trial and error. So […]

I repeat, RYAN WANTS A BABY!  Well, he’s starting to warm up to the idea of having one soon it seems! Ryan struggled to talk about getting married for the first few years of our relationship, so needless to say we didn’t talk a whole lot about babies. One step at a time haha We […]

It’s pretty wild to think that we’ve been together for 7 years! It still doesn’t feel real, and honestly, it feels just like yesterday we were in college. Time flies. What’s even crazier is that we’ve been working on building the foundation of our relationship for just as long. I like to think of our […]